008 The Golden Rules of An Eternal Happiness
(Part 2 The prohibitions and commandments)
The basic principles of an eternal happiness were given in the first Part. The other rules will be given in this part.
# The prohibitions
Other prohibitions are:
- One must not gamble. (Lotto, Lottery, Punting are in the same category)
- One must not give and take bribe.
- One must not misappropriate.
- One must not usurp, the goods of humans must not be taken by force.
- One must not avoid bearing witness to a fact.
- One must not use narcotics for pleasure.
- One must not desist from visiting the close kinsfolk those are good people.
- One must not be unjust during measuring and weighing.
- One must not break the hearts of humans.
- One must not tell a lie.
- One must not be arrogant.
- One must not be jealous of others' goods, beauty, success etc.
- One must not gossip about others in their absence.
- One must not become a talebearer.
- One must not be stingy.
- One should never say the forbidden one for the permissible one and say the permissible one for the forbidden one.
- One must not eat pork.
- One must not eat carrion.
- One must not uncover his/her own awrat parts, and must not look at another person's awrat parts. (The awrat parts means the body parts which are necessary to be covered according to Islam)
- Men must not dress up like a woman, nor must women dress up like a man.
- Women must not go to visits without permission from their husbands.
- Women must not stay aloof from their husbands' bed.
- One must not turn back from Islam (the religion of Allah), after he/she has believed.
- One must not do the salat (prayer) before and after its correct time.
- One must not break the fast without an excuse near the other Muslims during the month of Ramadan.
- One must not refrain from paying zakat to the poor and the others in need. (Zakat is paid as 2.5% of the merchandise)
- One must not taunt a favor, which has already been done.
- One must not compare the awrat parts of his wife's body with his mother's.
- One must not curse his wife's mother.
- One must not become much fond of the worldly life.
- Men must not wear silk costumes.
- Terminally ill must not hide his/her property from his heir.
- One must not disobey the commandments of statesmen which are not forbidden by religion; and must be a law-abiding person.
- One must not believe that a warlock informs from the unseen.
- One must not eat and drink the leftovers of dogs.
- One must not look at namahrem without any excuse. (Namahrem are the people that are eligible for you to get married according to Islam)
- One must not stay without having a ghusl (the full ablution) after copulation as much as to miss a salat (prayer) time.
- One must not perform sexual intercourse with his wife in the case of her menstruation and confinement.
- One must not swear an oath on anything except Allah ta'âla's name or the words notified by Islam.
- One must not sing immoral songs.
- One must not forget Qur'an once it is memorized.
- One must not use a pejorative word for the ashab-i kiram. (Ashab-i Kiram are the people who had seen Mohammed aleyhissalam and listened to Him)
- One must not continue to eat after being satiated.
- One must not unnecessarily laugh loudly much.
- One must not avoid preventing a sin if he/she has enough power.
- One must not burn live animals in fire.
- One must not insist on ignorance.
- One must not remain aloof from science.
Some of above-mentioned actions are the cardinal sins. The wrath of Allah taalâ is hidden within sins. One should try to avoid all of them. Staying away from sins with the fear of Allah is called "taqwa". In the sight of Allah, the value of individuals and communities ]is with taqwa. Therefore], dear brother, no sin is little and unimportant, try to stay away from all of them.
# The commandments
Some of the Islamic commandments for the establishment of moral values also are:
- Allah must be known as the only one and never be forgotten.
- One must eat and drunk legitimately (in the way that God permitted).
- One must believe that one's daily bread is from Allah.
- One must dress up in a clean and legitimately way.
- One must devote himself to Allah.
- One must be frugal.
- One must be thankful for the benefactions and favors of Allah ta'âla.
- One must consent to the fate.
- One must endure tribulations.
- One must repent for sins.
- One must faithfully worship solely for the consent of Allah ta'âla.
- One must regard Satan as the enemy.
- Qur'an must be accepted proof and must be complied with its provisions.
- One must accept death as the truth and must be prepared for it.
- One must love the things that Allah loves and must avoid the things that Allah doesn't love.
- One must do favor for his/her parents.
- One must enjoin the good, must forbid the evil.
- One must visit close relatives.
- One must be on taqwa. (Taqwa means to avoid from the forbidden acts with the fear of Allah.)
- One must obey Allah ta'âla and His prophet's commandments.
- One must obey the orders of state leaders and must respect laws.
- One must look at the world as lessons.
- One must contemplate on Allah ta'âla's creatures.
- One must hold his/her tongue for not saying the evil and forbidden words.
- One must purify his/her heart from the masiwa. (Masiwa means everything existing in the heart except Allah ta'âla)
- One must not bring someone into derision.
- One must not look at the forbidden things by religion.
- One must be man of his word.
- One must not listen to the evil word.
- One must learn the sharia (Sharia means the provisions of Islam, fiqh).
- One must use the measuring and weighing tools justly.
- One must help the Muslim poor and needy, by paying zakat.
- One must not obey to the desires of his/her own ego.
- One must feed the hungry.
- One must work for his/her own daily bread.
- One must clean his/her ego from evils.
- One must be modest.
- One must not touch the property of an orphan until the age of puberty.
(Some parts of the prohibitions and commandments haven't been given here because they were given beforehand)
My dear brother, if you conform to these golden rules, you will be happy and peaceful, and also enviable ones both in this world and in afterlife. Don't forget, you have the right to choose. There is no sanction except "shame on you!" for many of them. This sanction has also disappeared in these days. Frankly speaking, everything has been left to your conscience. Try to choose the right thing. Don't think about "what everybody says". Don't forget, the consequence of a wrong choice is only frustration. The troubles of this world come and go. Are the problems of afterlife similar to those?
Whoever conforms to these rules benefits from them in this world and afterlife to the extent of their compliance with them. Whoever does not conform to them, he lives its troubles, to the extent of their noncompliance with. Allah ta'âla has established his arrangement and organisation in this way.
My precious brother, to comply with the will of Allah ta'âla is only possible through loving Him. Loving Him means preferring His desires to ones own desires. "Faith" and "the love of God" are things present in ones heart. They are not seen with bare eyes and not held with hand. But just as everything in the heart has a sign that is reflected in this world, God's love also has a sign that is reflected in this world: and this is to follow His prophet.
Say: "If ye do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [Al-i Imran, 31]
He who obeys the Messenger, obeys Allah. [Nisaa, 80]
That means, to love Allah is only possible through obeying His prophet.
I wish that, Allah, who possesses the endless mercy and compassion, makes us among those who are precious and happy in both world, doesn't make us from those are in disappointment.
Be entrusted to Allah.
Dr. Ismail Ulukus
 Ali bin Emrullah and Muhammed Hadimi, 1994. Islam Ahlâki, 24.ed. Hakikat Ltd. Sti. publications, No:4, Cagaloglu, Istanbul